The work of reconciliation and restoration begins with us. There is no time limit on this step. We can make amends with folks that God puts on our hearts. We may have forgotten some names that God will bring them to us when the time is right.
As we turn to Christ, the Holy Spirit touches our hearts and we become like Him in character. Our growth and grace, our happiness and our usefulness depend on being one with Christ.
We become Christ by faith and we grow in Him by faith. How this happens is we give our hearts and plans to Him each day. Being His causes us not to think of our feelings are looking to ourselves for strength. Thinking of self actually does the opposite, it turns us away from Christ.
We may be afraid to take the stepped of trusting God. In faith, we can accept the promises that God has given us in His Word. Christ is willing and able to cause us to love Him and live in Him.