God does not force us to do anything. He desires us to freely come to Him of our free will. God doesn't want this to be painful. It may be painful because we see and admit the wrongs we have committed. The Holy Spirit guides us to recognize our sin for what it is. We have to admit it is our problem (addiction) and feel sorry for the pain we have caused God or someone else. When we take ownership of our sin and stop blaming someone else, God will forgive our trespasses. True confession names the sin: addiction, resentment, or character flaw. Sometimes it is helpful to have an experienced Holy Spirit- filled person to help us with our journey. We must be careful who we ask to walk with us. One of the byproducts of sin is that when we commit the sin the first time it is easier to do again. We have lost our innocence and it does not look as wrong as it did before. Brokenhearted people are humbled and desire forgiveness. This leads us to see that God does really accept us and loves us. God will forgive us when we admit our sin and repent of it.
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